Esau said, “What do you mean by all this company that I met?” Jacob answered, “To find favor in the sight of my lord.” But Esau said, “I have enough, my brother; keep what you have for yourself.” Jacob said, “No, please, if I have found favor in your sight, then accept my present from my hand. For I have seen your face, which is like seeing the face of God, and you have accepted me. (Genesis 33:8-10)
Recall that Jacob feared Esau who was coming to meet him with 400 men (32: 6-8). When Jacob saw Esau coming, he organized his entourage by placing his servant-wives and their children first, then Leah and her children, with Rachael and Joseph, with whom he had the greatest affection. There are two possible reasons for this order; protecting his family in the event Esau attacked or as an indication that he was coming in peace. Jacob led the group. When facing uncertainty in a relationship, how do you show you are coming in peace?
Esau ran to meet Jacob who bowed seven times out of respect for his older brother. Esau greeted Jacob with great emotion indicating he held no animosity toward his brother. The women and children following him all bowed to Esau. Again, Jacob referred to himself a servant and Esau as lord. How do you show respect to others?
Esau inquired as to all the livestock Jacob had sent ahead (32:4-5). Jacob told him that it was to find favor with him. Esau objected saying he did not need the gifts Jacob sent, but eventually accepted the gifts. Esau urged Jacob to follow him to Seir, however, Jacob refused claiming it would be a hardship on his children and livestock. Is there a broken relationship in your life? How will you restore it?
Jacob then camped at succoth, a short distance from where he met Esau and then moved on to Shechem, about 20 miles to the west, the first place mentioned upon Abraham’s arrival in Canaan (12:6). There, Jacob bought land and built an altar. Perhaps he rebuilt Abraham’s altar since the traditional Hebrew word for building is not used here. He named the altar El-Elohe-Israel (God, the God of Israel), referring to the God he met at Peniel where the Lord changed his name to Israel. (32:27-30)
Conflicts with others require prayerful, careful restoration.