Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. She had a female Egyptian servant whose name was Hagar. And Sarai said to Abram, “Behold now, the Lord has prevented me from bearing children. Go in to my servant; it may be that I shall obtain children by her.” And Abram listened to the voice of Sarai. (Genesis 16:1-2)
The Lord had promised Abram that his descendants would be uncountable. Yet, Sarai was nearing if not past childbearing age. So, she decided to take matters into her own hand and offered Abram her servant, Hagar. Abram followed Sarai’s suggestion and Hagar bore a son. Abram named him Ismael thereby acknowledging him as his son.
Hagar had contempt for Sarai because she was baren. Sarai blamed Abram for Hagar having his child and Abram permitted Sarai to deal harshly with Hagar such that she ran away.
The angel of the Lord came to Hagar asking questions to get her to understand her situation (see The Lord’s questions to Adam and Eve in 3:9-11). The angel then predicted that Ismael’s descendants would be uncountable, and that he and his descendants would cause trouble for others and others would cause trouble for him and his descendants. Hagar called on the Lord and when he responded, she recognized that the Lord understood her plight.
Aside from the resulting conflict with Islam over the centuries, taking matters into their own hands damaged the relationships between Sarai and Abram and between Hagar and Sarai.
When the Lord does not respond to our perceived needs as quickly as we would like, it is easy for us to take matters into our own hands. We do so not know the Lord’s plans nor consider the consequences of acting on our own.
God’s timing is perfect. Impatience has consequences.